Do You See Me?



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I started this post over a week ago, but it’s a hard thing for me to talk about so I stopped. As it would be, God is asking me to show up again and be true. Vulnerability is so so hard for this girl.


Loneliness is something I experience all the time. It is not the same as being alone. As the mother of four children, who has her hands in multiple pots, I am not alone as much as I would like to be. Lonliness is different. It can be felt (I feel it is the strongest) when I am in a group of people. Among friends and family. I am quiet. I don’t always have a lot to say, but I am listening… I listen to not only words, but body language, facial expressions, energy. My world is a symphony of silent sounds.

The truth is I just don’t “belong”.

Even among friends, family, coworkers…the feeling remains. This isn’t a poor me story either. It’s just true. As we have deep discussions I am probably not going to pour my life story to you…most people don’t know much about me besides the obvious surface stuff and my faith…the depths of my story, some dark things are pushed away and hidden.

I think a lot of us float on the surface of life. Small talk, maybe some deeper stories to a few special individuals, our trust circle. We have abundant Facebook friends and text a few day-to-day, but our relationships lack any true depth. We don’t often have phone conversations anymore (growing up in the 80-90’s I had my ear to the phone most days at home) and can see the consequences. As technology connects us more we become less connected. Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful for it, but like any other convenience in life it can become something we abuse. With overuse it can cause feelings of isolation, anxiety, and even depression.

It’s so easy to fake it on social media. Filter our lives to appear flawless. 

It’s amazing how one scroll through social media can leave me feeling like I deserve an F for the day in the subjects of motherhood, spouse, homemaker, employee, etc. Not to mention how everyone looks so put together and my messy bun is leftovers from yesterday because it’s been so chaotic that I didn’t have time to wash my hair or even brush it yet.


I’m tired of faking it…pretending everything is perfect, being lonely, unconnected. The biggest fear in my loneliness is not that I don’t belong, but that I am UNSEEN. Who sees me? Do You? The answer is NO. No one sees me because I am too afraid of being seen, but yet all I want is someone to really SEE me, acknowledge me. Sounds like a sad, vicious cycle doesn’t it? I think I can hear the violin playing.

Even if we could change how do we become more connected? Where do I start?

The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense. Proverbs 27:9

It starts with sharing. Sharing your dreams, thoughts, and the hard stuff to a few elite we deem trustworthy. Sharing the stories of abuse, betrayal, forgiveness, grief…whatever causes us to numb ourselves with our addictions to try to forget even for just a night. What is causing us to do the things we do? That’s what we need to share. Sharing brings relief not only to you, but also those that you can connect with. We were never meant to do this alone.

Easier said than done, right?

Sharing it all means you are exposed and vulnerable. If someone rejects the you with the good happy parts and only a little bit of the surface hardships, they will surely reject the sad, ugly, and heartbreaking stuff–or worse yet they may laugh at your dreams, goals, and aspirations. In our eyes rejection often seems like the worst case scenario. I challenge that. The worse case scenerio is we avoid stepping into the courage of being vulnerable and allowing ourselves to truly be seen, thus living a superficial life that is rooted in isolation, fear, and shame.

But first we must accept who we are.

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” 
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly

Yes, we MUST accept who we are. The good, the bad, the ugly–you have come so far. I am certain you can look back and be proud of the things that you have gone through to make it to the other side. They have woven you into the uniquely special person you are. Without the heartbreak and life lessons–the brokeness…the light wouldn’t have got into the deep parts of your heart and soul. They have allowed God to shape you into the person you are today.

I am aware that during the mountains and valleys it may seem like the journey is so long and hard, but we need to remember that we are not alone. We all go through our own struggles both internal and external. Lets share those with one another. Share our fears but also share our dreams. If we can’t accept who we are and the journey we are on we can’t let others join in. You have to be true to you. Love you. Because He loves you. Listen to who He says you are:

Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 1 Corinthians 6:19 (NIV)

You have been chosen. Show up, be seen…with every moment GO ALL IN!

Start with connection. Connect to God. Connect with yourself. Connect with others.

Connection vs. Busyness

I blame busyness all the time, but honestly it is a poor excuse. Be deliberate with forming relationships. Cultivate more time connecting with others. Real connections, not fake ones. Face to face. We need to act with urgency. Do this NOW. We are longing for a reason…there may be someone who needs to hear what you have to say. We belong to one another.

Make it a goal to reach out to one person today. Call them. Even better…schedule a coffee date or a time to be in the presence of one another and allow yourself to be YOU. You need this–and the world needs you.

Until I am compelled to share again,

Take care and God Bless,


“You only are free when you realize you belong no place — you belong every place — no place at all.”― Maya Angelou


Author: Elizabeth Rosemeier

Hi, I'm Elizabeth Rose! I started this blog as I journeyed t0 finding myself through the experiences of my life. In 2018, I quit my job, moved into a camper with my husband, 3 boys, bulldog and began homeschooling my children. I did this to keep my family together as my husband traveled for his job. My goal was to create a family centered life. I found myself more alone that I had ever been and discovered what I had been avoiding for the last decade. My marriage and the life I had built was killing me, at an exceedingly alarming rate. I had exhausted myself and all the resources I had left in me. I took a long absence from my blog in 2019, it was a year of great changes as I navigated a painful divorce. This blog is about my journey. I share my pain with you and how I am discovering the life I am meant to live. A life I feel I truly belong in. A life of abundance that only can come from within. There is no denying the feeling I get from aligning with my highest self. My goal at, A Family Centered Life, is to continue to bring my awareness and intention into creating and enjoying the moments of my life. I choose to be honest and vulnerable, sharing my insights, emotions, with the hope that others find the connection and support to keep moving forward in their own life. Just as I longed for all of those years as I lived a happy life displayed on the outside, but one filled with internal pain and suffering. I continue to become my truest version by replacing perfection and performance with balance and intention. I found the courage to find the key and unlock the cage I was in, I know you can too. The road is not easy, but it is full of depth, grace, humility, and love. Wild and Free, Elizabeth Rose

4 thoughts on “Do You See Me?”

  1. Derek and I went to MPLS to a church downtown where Brene spoke of the first time she heard the Maya Angelou quote at the end of your post. It was at the transition point in my life that was spurring me to step away from what,where and who I had always been. Powerful stuff. Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart. I resonate with your writing on so many levels, and I adore your transparency. You are a very present human and that is a rare quality – to be so aware. Love to you and yours. ❤


    1. Thank you for your kind words Angela. They have made a mark. Brene is a favorite of mine as well. I wish you love and joy always ❤️


  2. Thank you for expressing your thoughts and feelings. I feel the power of loneliness in my life and I can not really discribe it . You nailed it! Thank you!
    Many blessings beautiful lady. 🙏.


  3. Thank you Joanne for your thoughtful response! I am glad it resonated with you. We are all in this together. Sending you love ❤️


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